tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1223340564696735596.post4986014338917176983..comments2023-06-01T02:54:15.817-05:00Comments on Losing My Mind: Getting byPsycho Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08310390778188375950noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1223340564696735596.post-25018481054757443992012-03-01T16:31:26.162-06:002012-03-01T16:31:26.162-06:00We realized about 4 yrs ago that my son (then, a v...We realized about 4 yrs ago that my son (then, a very immature 14 yo) was not going to ever do well in our home. We'd had him since the age of 9 mos and he had been the angriest baby we'd ever seen (before or since). We begged for services, we looked for an out-of-home placement with an urgency I cannot even describe. He was (and still is) locked in an illogical place where there is no room for facts or love or change. He is now almost 18 and we have literally been "getting by" all this time. We walk on eggshells. We have destressed his life in the most bizarre ways. He is completely happy to just sit and stare now. He rarely rages because my husband watches him 24/7. He goes to work with dh and comes home and sits nearby until bedtime. As far as I'm concerned, it's no life for either of them. If he doesn't rage, the dr. thinks he's "doing fine". If I let the slightest thing bother my son he perseverates and rages and makes life a living hell for all of us - and I can't put my younger kids thru it one more second. This is not how a family lives. My sons grand plan when he turns 18 in 59 days is to go live at a homeless shelter and "get on with his life". His case manager says he will qualify for lots of help if he's considered a "homeless teen". So, why can't he qualify for something beneficial as a 14 or 15 or 16 or 17 yo? Because as long as we're functioning (no matter how dysfunctionally) and not calling the police hourly, we're considered to be doing fine. Sometimes I wonder who the crazy people in this situation are.<br /><br />I know MN is much better with services than MI so keep on looking, keep on advocating for ALL of your kids and know that this is a season that will be over at some point.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14612523674452864077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1223340564696735596.post-80187724533147514272012-02-27T13:05:42.379-06:002012-02-27T13:05:42.379-06:00I've been thinking about you since reading thi...I've been thinking about you since reading this earlier today. Wondering at how very painful it must have been to reach this place, and now having to wait and hope and trust that the right situation will come where you're daughter will "fit", and where you will have all the access you need to still be her parent. Last fall I was standing behind a woman in line , who was looking at the display of FASD knots there for those to take and wear in support of the wounded. She commented quite loudly that no one has the right to tell someone what to do with their life, so she wouldn't take a knot to wear. I wonder would she feel the same way in seeing what our children go through because of someone else's right to choose? You're in my prayers.PurlingPennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11366627261132776306noreply@blogger.com