You just can't ever have enough friends. And I have learned something new about that over the last 5 years. You just can't have enough friends who parent challenging kids. I haven't really lost any friendships like many people have due to parenting a very challenging child, but some friendships have grown much more distant and surfacey as most parents of typical kids do not understand what it is like.
I have many friends now who parent challenging children. If you're reading this, you might be one of them. And I may have never met you. But I consider you my friend. One of my good friends calls you my fake friends. But the truth is, you know more about my family, my thoughts than she does. I know more about your family and thoughts than I do of hers. It is a strange thing, but it has been an answer to prayers.
Yesterday, I got to meet one of my "fake friends" (I don't think you guys are fake, but I do think it sounds funny!). Linda and I met, and she blogged about it here. I can't tell you how much I enjoyed it. Now, she is my "real friend". I hope I don't scare her off, she has already been a great resource to me and I know she will be in the future. Her daughter, DQ, who just turned 18, is so much like Akila I can't even explain it. We are in for a bumpy ride, and I am glad I have some new friends to ride with.
About Me
- Psycho Mom
- North Minneapolis, Minnesota, United States
- My name is Barb and I am a teenager at heart who is married to Michael, an Accountant. We have 4 adopted children, Akila-12, Imani-11, Hezekiah-10 and Zeke-9. I am a youth worker by profession but currently staying home attempting to manage our household. My hope for this blog is that it will help me to avoid cleaning my house (I actually don't need help with avoiding housework) and give me some serenity (I do need help with this). My oldest child, Akila, has Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder (FASD) and that is what I will focus on in this blog.
My Blog List
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Don't Give Up Dad4 months ago
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What Now?3 years ago
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Hey, 2020!4 years ago
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What About My Birthday?7 years ago
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New Blog Site8 years ago
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Sometimes, God Draws a Veil9 years ago
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They Just Don't Get It . . .10 years ago
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Pelatih Golf10 years ago
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4 comments:
How wonderful to meet in person!
Hi. I just wanted to thank you so much for your honesty in sharing your life like you do. I am an adoptive mom who by all accounts had a very easy adoption so far...our son has been with us for 4 years. But I struggle so much with my thoughts and our bonding like I never thought I would, and the only place I have felt real honesty is here and also Dorothy's blog (Suburban Mom) That is how I found out about your blog. I don't think you will ever know how many people have been comforted by your willingness to share and be honest about the hard parts and hard thoughts on adoption. I feel very alone with my "real friends" in that they would never understand the things I am feeling...there are so many whose adoptions on the outside look like a storybook...so having "fake" friends like you is an incredible blessing...because maybe it takes a fake friend to really tell it like it is, and can be. I am thankful to God for you. And am praying for you and your precious family.
how fun! glad you had a good time. - i know how much i enjoyed meeting a few "Fake friends" at the conference.
I'm afraid you are going to be stuck with me now! I loved meeting you and was amazed at how jazzed I was all afternoon because of it. So don't worry about scaring me away....this fake friend is here to stay! I really want to help you (and anyone else who is on this ride)and assure you that it's the scariest ride in the park but you won't fall out.
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