Tuesday, October 6, 2009


Last Tuesday night was a rough one, when I had to restrain Akila 4 times. I have not really had to since, and we are restraining her anytime she hits/kicks/pushes Michael or me. She did today afterschool, when she was trying to convince me that one of Imani's shirts was hers, she kicked me.

I restrained her, and I used the basket hold restraint, which I could not remember from my restraint training from when I worked in the schools, but a friend gave me some pointers last week. This worked much better than the one on the floor, my knees are still recovering, seriously. And the beauty of this restraint, was that it lasted less than 10 minutes. I did not have my watch on though.

I am really hopeful that this means that her brain has at least momentarily learned something, and possibly two things. One, she hasn't been physically hurting us as often the last week, and number two, the restraint was much shorter which hopefully means that she understands to calm down so I can release her. One thing I have definitely learned about FASD, is that often when Akila conquers a new thing, it can stay for an hour, a day, a few weeks, or months, but rarely does it last forever. In particular, when it is a behavioral thing, it does usually not last forever. One of the books I have read and appreciated, has said that when you find a discipline technique that works, rejoice, and use it for as long as you can knowing that it will probably lose it's effectiveness at some point.

So, I am hopeful- and it feels good.


Betsy said...

Praise the Lord!

We have been praying for the Lord to sustain you, give you strength and wisdom in helping Akila.

Know we pray for you (and your wonderful family) each time we drive to school and go by your house. :)

karim said...

A valuable post and it much helpfull to all.Thanks a lot for your post.

Karim - Positive thinking

Anonymous said...

This is the pass-thru learning that comes with FASD! They get it one minute and it can be gone the next, just as if they had never gotten it before. Sooo frustrating!

It got to where I just assumed I was starting back at zero/beginning each and every time something came up. Eased my frustration level at least. Hopefully, it did theirs too!