Well, we have met with the Psychologist 3 times now. She isn't fixed yet, what's up with that? Ha. We are doing a behavior chart for one of her biggest issues; which is when she goes into a rage/tantrum when told no when she wants something, no matter how creative I am on the answer. She basically goes instantly to the name calling, kicking, throwing stage when told no. If any parent out there of an FASDer has figured out a way to deal with being called names constantly, please let me know.
I am really trying not to let that bother me, or I would be full of anger constantly. Literally, I am called a dumbhead, moran, idiot, stupidhead, or something else at least 10 times a day, and I'm talking about after school. Weekends are worse. Can't wait for summer. I digress. Back to the behavior chart. It is so hard to score her on the raging over the being told no thing; she basically should have a one (the lowest score, on a scale of 1-4) every day. If I push it because she calmed down more quickly than normal, I can give her a better score. But it is really hard to reward her for that when she stole someone's sneakers today, constantly sassed with huge attitude including giving me the "hand" multiple times, etc.
I understand choosing one behavior and working on that, but it is hard. I once again find myself needing reminding that she has permanent brain damage and these things are basically not going to go away. We can try to equip her with more skills in hope that she can handle herself a little more appropriately, but the biggest thing is for me to change my response, and expectation. I wonder if I will ever be able to live that? I know it is what I need to do, but for some reason, I keep on forgetting. I must be almost 40.
Is it really?
1 week ago