I guess I'm going to do 3 posts a day now, trying to catch up. This is a quick one. I have spent the last few days deep cleaning the kids bedrooms. I did Akila's room on Tuesday, the boys yesterday and Imani's today. Imani has a chalk board in her room that all the kids like to write on from time to time. Today, I found this message from Akila:
If you can't read it, it says " I want to go to stay at my birth mom's. Akila". I know that I will probably be hearing a lot of these kind of lines from her in the upcoming years. I'm sure she wrote it last week one day when she was furious with me and was saying that over and over. Then she came downstairs and wanted to do enough chores to earn $600. I had told her a long while ago that plane tickets cost at least $600. Pretty sure she had some plans. She of course didn't do enough chores to earn fifty cents, but she got a little bit done.
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what a card. kinda funny, yet it is not. - i am glad you write about these things barb.
Oh, comments like that (or messages on chalkboards) can certainly sting. Guess we just have to be careful not to take them personally. My daughter has no desire to be with her birth family, but will sometimes "wish" she was adopted by a "better" family than us. My son doesn't know his birth family at all and tends to just shout in anger "you're not even my real mum" then comes a few minutes later crying "I didn't mean it, I was just angry!" needing a hug and some reassurance. When I was a little kid I used to pretend my parents had adopted me, and that my REAL dad was Ringo Starr!
Ouch. I know we're supposed to be the adults, but stuff like that paper cuts my heart. And it just sits there for days. Not that I would tell the kids that, or admit it to many people. If only they could understand with an adults mind why they are not living with those people in the first place.
By the way - if that's in her room I want to see a picture of her room. It looks cute!!
Maybe I'll see one as I go back in the blog further :)
Doing some deep cleaning here - and stumbled across your blog address. I'm trying to prepare myself for the time M says that. Hopefully a long while off yet. Looks like you've got your hands full right now. Prayers your way.
yikes, most adpotive mom's probably wouldn't expect that until the teen years.
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