Monday, September 29, 2008

Smart Move Mom, Finally!

I am very proud of myself tonight. Akila had a really good morning, no issues, no rages, no name-calling, it was a rare morning. Akila started playing with a few of her dolls yesterday and she really gets into this sometimes. The dolls are real and we all have to treat them accordingly or she will go nuts.

So, as she was leaving, she was handing me her doll to care for during the day. When she does this, I have to be very careful to handle the doll with care or I get yelled at to support her neck, etc. I was very loving to the doll. Akila told me where to set her down after she left. She asked if I was going anywhere and I said I was going grocery shopping. She asked me to take the doll with, but to be sure to use her car seat. I assured her that I would.

During the day, I came across a bib and brought it and put it on the doll. When Akila got home, she noticed immediately. I told her that when I was feeding her she was getting messy so I put a bib on her. She loved it. She was so proud of me and so thankful that I took good care of her baby. She then went in the basement, got the real high chair out, and played really nicely with dolls for quite awhile. I came into the kitchen and found her running the microwave. She had a bottle with water that she was warming up for the baby. She had even taken the nipple off.

Makes me think that she might be able to be a good mom some day. Well, that is until the child started to talk and assert their will. She would then explode and lose her temper. Worse than I do. But I didn't have to today. Today was a good day.

7 comments:

Sheri said...

Dustin does the same thing with stuffed animals. Once I bought him one of those fur-real pets. Oy! Bad idea. That dumb thing was ALIVE in his mind. I'm glad you can deal with it and it sounds like you had a real break through for today!

r. said...

It's so sweet how she wants to take good care of her babies. Do you think she makes any connection to her own background? I'm glad you had a pleasant day with her.

creative gal said...

That is so adorable! Glad for a good day!

party of eight said...

Akila needs to come over and hold my REAL babies. i know she would like it. Babies might be therapeutic for her. (And you are always allowed to borrow one of mine if you don't want to get one of your own...)

Janine said...

Don't you treasure these good times, and wish they could be more frequent? Although I have to say that my son with FASD is pretty easy going and we have some lovely times together, especially as we're presently homeschooling, but my daughter of 14 has a number of lesser issues revolving around attachment and ADHD and just plain annoying teenagehood...and the good times are few and far between.

FAScinated said...

What a beautiful way to connect with your daughter. What a great mom you are! ~Kari

Amy said...

Oh that is so cute - and so awesome that you got to experience a good day :)