Friday, January 13, 2012

Short shorts

This morning, Akila asked me where her shorts are. I asked which shorts she is talking about. She yelled very angrily, "MY SHORTS!!" I asked which pair she meant. She keep repeating MY SHORTS. I said that the shorts were put away for winter. She then got more angry as she was talking about a certain pair of shorts.

I then remembered that when she was at the crisis home, she had earned some money and went shopping at Target and got some disgustingly short shorts. We have a length of shorts rule at our house, and the disgusting booty short shorts that are in do not fit the rule. I have worked hard to avoid them, and I know that someday it will be a battle I probably just give into, as it would not be worth being hit and punched over.

But that day is not here yet. I put those shorts a few weeks ago in the donation bucket. I had to tell her that as she was perseverating on the shorts. She was not pleased. Not pleased. At all. I took several punches to the gut and a few pushes before I got her moved on and refocused on getting dressed for school. I didn't even engage in the conversation with her we have had a million times about weather appropriate clothing. Shorts in January? Not a great idea, even with the mild winter we have had so far. I also didn't even bring up that those shorts would not meet the school dress code. I tried to avoid the "battle" conversations.

She is going to respite tonight until early Sunday afternoon, and I am relieved for a break. We are in desperate need of a new PCA and the next week is going to be a tough one as I only have a PCA one day. I sent an email to a friend of a friend this morning who is a nurse and willing to help us recruit. It is hard to recruit PCA's, especially if they know anything about our life. Would you want to work 1:1 with Akila after everything you have read? I had to explain to this person, that Akila will not be violent with the PCA's, she saves that pleasure for her parents and siblings. She will be sassy, and not listen, but she won't hit or hurt them.

So if you know anyone in the Twin Cities area available around 3:30 in the afternoon, let me know. We are desperate!


jodilee0123 said...

If you wanted to email me something, I could post it on the 'special needs' help needed bulletin board.

jodilee0123 said...

I work part time at the St. Paul Jewish community center.....their inclusion program is really really good.

GB's Mom said...

We call them "hootchie mama" clothes. Do not allow them here either. GB was given a bikini by my DIL 2 years ago. We donated it to Good Will. Now every time we pass ANY Good Will she wants to stop and get her bikini.

DynamicDuo said...

my girls are in charge of their own laundry etc. so getting rid of the "less than desirable clothes" has gotten easier, as they don't know that I know they have them, their room is a disaster. If they ask me about them then they have to admit they had them and so on and so on, so alot of clothes disappear, but never a word is said. I am so bad.

Miz Kizzle said...

My heart goes out to you. The booty-revealing shorts, the cigarettes, the press-on nails are all horrible in a "People of Walmart" sort of way.
I hope you find a good PCA. Is there a college near you where you could advertise for a special ed major to help out?