I then remembered that when she was at the crisis home, she had earned some money and went shopping at Target and got some disgustingly short shorts. We have a length of shorts rule at our house, and the disgusting booty short shorts that are in do not fit the rule. I have worked hard to avoid them, and I know that someday it will be a battle I probably just give into, as it would not be worth being hit and punched over.
But that day is not here yet. I put those shorts a few weeks ago in the donation bucket. I had to tell her that as she was perseverating on the shorts. She was not pleased. Not pleased. At all. I took several punches to the gut and a few pushes before I got her moved on and refocused on getting dressed for school. I didn't even engage in the conversation with her we have had a million times about weather appropriate clothing. Shorts in January? Not a great idea, even with the mild winter we have had so far. I also didn't even bring up that those shorts would not meet the school dress code. I tried to avoid the "battle" conversations.
She is going to respite tonight until early Sunday afternoon, and I am relieved for a break. We are in desperate need of a new PCA and the next week is going to be a tough one as I only have a PCA one day. I sent an email to a friend of a friend this morning who is a nurse and willing to help us recruit. It is hard to recruit PCA's, especially if they know anything about our life. Would you want to work 1:1 with Akila after everything you have read? I had to explain to this person, that Akila will not be violent with the PCA's, she saves that pleasure for her parents and siblings. She will be sassy, and not listen, but she won't hit or hurt them.
So if you know anyone in the Twin Cities area available around 3:30 in the afternoon, let me know. We are desperate!